I found the thing I was talking about here. It's her 2.0 stream, at 1:28:58 she talks about meeting fans at conventions or meetups. It doesn't sound like she meant in her vtuber form. So to the guy worried about her being too parasocial and that being the last straw, it's on her goal list.
I don't understand people who care about this. Like, to them is it cuck behavior to watch straight porn because the guy fucking the woman isn't them?
the main difference is with regular porn both people are strangers and (most likely) a professionals. when it comes to stuff with streamer/youtuber you build a more personal connections with them. so you see them as a friend or (if you are down the parasoical rabbit hole) as a potential lover.