That's fair, and it only gets worse if you live in a bigger city. It's definitely the worst time, and it only gets worse with age as
your own preferences become less likely to still remain on the market. However, I still don't think it's impossible to find someone if you are somewhat normal and try. Though, you might have to "date down" since a lot of other men are. I didn't mean to say that it was easy and required no effort, but more along the lines of it taking effort - at times a lot of effort - but still doable. Just as you say though, if you're extremely handsome and what not, the easier you'll have it when looking for a partner. You nor they might not necessarily be looking for a partner but it still happens just because you're attractive. Being attractive doesn't just help when looking for a partner, but in all matters of life. The Halo Effect is real, people. Being incredibly autistic/having tons of social anxiety and not being able to function around people/being buttfuck ugly makes it almost impossible though. If not entirely.
Honestly, it isn't just porn anymore. We've become desensitized to all sorts of stuff with the internet. Fast media, social media and what not have ruined the seriousness in everything. I've seen most of the worst in humanity since I've been growing up through the internet. News lasts for no longer than a week after something serious because after that people lose interest and look for the next fix. School shooting? I'll think about it for a few days, then I need to know the newest recipe on Facebook. Oh, now I'm bored. Let's go on TikTok and consume content faster than an autistics stimming. You don't have time to process all the impressions and it makes you numb. Look at the Russian invasion: big news for a month, now you hear something very seldom unless you actively look for it (at least here). We can't keep our attention on anything and someone being brutally murdered is just something that happens. It also doesn't help that most people are sitting in a developed country and have no idea what the rest of the world looks like. But those places have to be as nice as my suburban American neighborhood, right?
Porn has had the same effect. People need more. I need more. Everybody needs more. When incest porn first started popping up people were disgusted and outraged, now it's just another thing that happens and no one bats an eye when the entire frontpage of Pornhub is filled with it. Having schoolgirl porn, with models that barely look like they've gotten out of high-school doesn't seem strange to a lot of people, in fact a lot of them are actively searching for it.(just as you say: it's weird.) I get people have fantasies and that's fine, and definitely better than the alternative of them actually doing it, but it still seems like it's getting more mainstream to openly like that stuff. And what happens, as we've previously established, when you've grown bored of that genre? You need more, something even more depraved and the cycle continues. Most people have a limit on how far they'll go, but some don't and they turn into dangerous territory with genuine depravity.
Agreed on mainstream porn being awful and amateur stuff being good. I can honestly say that I can still enjoy amateur stuff, at least honest amateur stuff and not amateur porn studios. A girl enjoying herself and being happy and not having a seizure when they "cum" and obviously faking it is just stupid. Just as those camgirl toys that vibrate with tips. I too scream and have an epileptic response when a small object vibrates on my body. I've always found mainstream porn boring honestly, there just wasn't really an alternative when I was young. Unless you wanted to see the worst camera angle of all time where the camera is below a man plowing a girl and all you see is his hairy ass and balls and maybe her legs spread on the bed. The more I think about it, the more I realize I want something that seems like a video a girl would send to me privately because she likes me. Not the fake OF thing, though. "Oh, I love it if you tip me because I love you and I get wet every time you do it." Yeah, bullshit woman. I wonder how many men fall for it, or live in denial.
Nope. Usually when she's posted previews it came out later during the day/night, but nothing so far. I'm expecting it later today or tomorrow night. Unfortunately.
It wasn't my intention to devalue your experiences and opinions, in fact I have had the same thing happen to me. But then again, I'm not an ordinary man by any stretch. I may look like it if you see me outside, maybe even handsome to some people, but I'm a strange man and turn people off me as soon as I start speaking. I can't really relate to normal people and have nothing to talk about and come off creepy almost, if not outright dangerous. I don't mean that in an edgy way, but more of the fact that I can seem unhinged. Standing there and basically looking through a person and responding with a script doesn't make them feel comfortable it seems.
I have friends who tell me it's easy and you just need to talk like a normal guy and try and it'll happen. Thanks, I'm cured. They're just normal dudes and nothing special and they have found women, and that's what I mean with ordinary people finding relationships. You don't have to be extraordinary, just be towards the middle and it'll happen if you try enough. If you're towards the lower end, you'll have it infinitely harder. It's what I dislike the whole "anti-incel" category of people, those who say it's only a shower away to a girlfriend. Genuine people venting and talking about their experiences with likeminded people isn't wrong, and doesn't warrant hate or unsolicited "advice" they've heard a million times and know doesn't work. People who hate women just because of their own shortcomings? Nah, get out. I understand that it's frustrating not being able to find a relationship, but if you haven't got something to offer, you're worthless on the dating market. Simple as. Doesn't make it wrong, but it's not right either. It just is.
