I wish they'd do the opposite and have the people on judge them
The sad thing is Z is a great guy. Dude is one of the nicest people I've come across. Youre probably right though he probably hasn't had attention in that area and Dan gave him attention. He got sucked in and invested himself in that. She gave him a sense of purpose. He's wasting his time on someone who walks all over him and does the bare minimum to keep him around. Dude could legit probably get some who actually cares about him that actually has things in common instead of trying to like whatever Dan likes. Dan wants to talk about being a 1 way friendship, i bet her "friends" know way more about her life than she'll ever know about even Z her "best friend". The it takes 30seconds to check in becomes a little less genuine when you're checking in on donors that haven't gifted in a while and not checking in as long as they're donating. But yeah Z if you ever read this you're better than this. You shouldn't have to apologize to people for Dans actions in DMs. You are better than her and deserve someone who appreciates you. The only end game with dan is heartbreak and wasted time. This woman will always move the goal post to her advantage and shame others for sticking by thier morals when she can't stick to her own. There is no honor or benefit to going down with this ship. Stop trying to hold it up and just let it sink.