You replied before I made my edit.
I was gonna say that you actually poisoned the well by prefacing what I'm doing as "paying for attention". I pay for sick-nasty amateur porn lol, not for attention. Like I said I don't DM people often at all, can literally count the individual messages I've sent on one hand.
The single exception to this was someone that I actually did talk to and befriend years ago on their free Onlyfans because I knew them in person lol, we went to the same University. I have semi-frequent conversation on Instagram and Discord about esoteric nerd shit despite them deleting their OF account years ago, for whatever that's worth. They messaged me the other day recommending I watch She-Ra.
BUT, fair enough, you got me there I will check my biases. I assumed that you, like 99.99% of these sites were a sex negative angry incel that was about to go into a spiel about how sex workers are uniquely evil lol. My apologies.