Found a work around. Please if you dont know what the below is and dont know where it goes, please dont ask me, as i barely know enough and wont know how to help you if you fuck up your computer some how.
curl --referer https://www.patreon.com -o [NAME].html https://player.vimeo.com/video/[NUMBER]
Name can be anything, Number is the vimeo number code. [NAME].HTML creates a html file that you can click that takes you to the video but you lose access after a short time so you need to download the video, i just used screen record to record the video shown as yt-dlp and jdownloader2 both still refused to download the actual video.